The Power of a Sacred, Sassy NO: How Saying Less Gets You More

For the longest time, I lived by this mantra: “Every NO brings you closer to a YES.”

And honestly? It is inspiring—especially when you’re in full warrior mode, chasing your visions with more devotion than sleep and more determination than grounding.

It makes sense: we learn resilience, we learn to stay open, we learn not to crumble when the world hands us a NO.

And yes, those NOs eventually lead us to the aligned YES:

The YES that feels like home.

The YES that lands in your body with a warm, resonant mmm-hmm.

The YES that pulls abundance into your orbit like a magnet with zero effort.

But here’s the part no one teaches you—probably because they’re also busy overriding their intuition:

While I was busy making peace with rejection from the outside world,

I didn’t realize I was quietly rejecting myself.

Yep. Plot twist.

I was saying YES far too often—not to my expansion, not to my soul mission, but to leaks.

Energetic. Sneaky. Draining. Leaks.

The kind that seem harmless until you realize you’re walking around with a dimmed aura and a tired spirit.

You know the ones:

✨That message you feel obligated to answer immediately, even though your body is whispering, “Not now.”

✨That favour you agree to when your inner battery is already flashing low.

✨That event you attend out of guilt even though your intuition has been gently nudging you toward rest.

It’s the slow erosion. The subtle self-abandonment. The “yes” that costs you more than it gives.

And trust me—I have boundaries.

I’ve done the rituals. I’ve journaled through lifetimes. But recently? My body has been calling me out with zero subtlety.

At first it was soft: fatigue, no appetite, that “off” feeling. Then it turned into full-on rebellion—aches, mood dips, mental spirals, the whole internal Netflix drama featuring Ego, Fear, and Their Unsolicited Opinions.

And when that happens?

Old patterns sneak back.

Your sparkle dims.

And that one YES you meant to say NO to becomes a detour you never needed.

But here’s the gift in all of it:

Once you build a deep relationship with your body— with your intuition, your energy, your sacred inner truth— you can’t lie to yourself anymore.

Your body will tell you. She will nudge.

She will whisper. She will roar if she has to.

So what’s the lesson?

A sacred NO to others is a sacred YES to yourself. And that YES—to your energy, your intuition, your path—is the one that shifts timelines.

It’s the YES that clears space.

The YES that opens portals.

The YES that brings you back into alignment with your highest expression.

But it requires courage.

It requires choosing yourself, even if others don’t understand. It requires letting disappointment be temporary so your integrity can be eternal.

So let me ask you:

How tuned in are you?

How often are you saying YES when your body already whispered,

“No, love. Not this.”

Let’s try something simple. A quick energetic check-in:

🔥 Pause.

🔥 Breathe.

🔥 Tune in.

Hand to heart.

Ask your body: Does this expand me? Or contract me?

Is this a YES? Or is this a NO?

Your body always speaks first.

The mind just likes to negotiate.

If it’s a NO?

Honor it.

Claim it.

Stand in it with grace.

Because your biggest, brightest, most aligned YES

lives behind the NO you’ve been resisting.

Say it with me:

NO is sacred.

NO is powerful.

NO is the guardian of my highest timeline.

Now go reclaim your energy like the intuitive, fiery, soul-led queen you are.

Your future self—glowing, grounded, and deeply resourced—already feels the shift.

With a full hearted YES to myself

Mia 🦋🌸✨